We all need that one friend to give us some straight-talking advice, or a kick up the backside now and then. But asking a mate for her totally honest opinion about your latest office meltdown or dating disaster can also lead to a cocktail in the face. Or, at least, some pretty damaged feelings. Because let’s face it – no one likes being told what they’re doing wrong. So that’s where I come in. I’m Sarah, author of The Life Changing Magic Of Not Giving a F**K (aka the book that was on most of team GLAMOUR’s Christmas lists) I’m not your friend, and you don’t have to like me, but if you want 2017 to turn out better than last year, read on…
STOP WHINGING, START SAVING
So tell me why you can’t afford that designer bag, those tickets to Adele, or a one-bedroom flat sans thoughtless flatmates? Oh, right: because your financial priorities are fucked. If your heart desires a Céline tote, set aside a tenner a day for six months, and you’ll have it. Sacrificing your weekly gin-based therapy sessions to the cause is a step in the right direction.
SAY NO MORE THAN YES
Repeat after me: “This year, I will not overcommit to the point where hiding under my bed seems a better option than having dinner and drinks for the fourth time in a week.” It’s very simple: two letters, one word. Personally, I say no all the time – especially to breakfast dates, because getting up early hurts my soul. Saying no doesn’t make me a bitch; it makes me well rested and more pleasant to be around for the rest of the day.
YOU’RE JUST NOT INTO HIM
Don’t peg your self-worth to a (wrong) guy’s actions when you can take one of your own, like telling him it’s over. Putting up with Mister Cheapskate, Mister Mummy Issues or Mister Selfish Lover will get you exactly nowhere, least of all down a rose-petal-strewn aisle, or to orgasm. Life is too short to stay in a shitty relationship.
QUIT THE OFFICE MARTYR ACT
It’s fine to work long hours in pursuit of that promotion, but know your limits. Don’t keep your mates/dates/kids waiting (again) because you put too much on the calendar. The last time my friend Erica stood me up for lunch was literally the last time – because now I won’t make plans with her at all. Keep your career, relationships and sanity intact and on track by scheduling your life, not over-scheduling it.
GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER
Hate your job? Update your CV and send it out. Want to drop a few pounds? Put down the biscuits and start cycling. Wish your flat was tidier? CLEAN IT. Crying into a tub of Ben & Jerry’s once in a while is fine, but the definition of insanity is doing the same thing again and again, expecting different results. This year, start treating yourself like the straight-talking friend you wish you had, to become the ass-kicking woman you want to be.