Calm the Fuck Down, Self-care March 19, 2019

What does “self-care” really mean, and what are some do’s and don’ts? originally appeared on Quora, the place to gain and share knowledge, empowering people to learn from others and better understand the world.

I think self-care means whatever you want it to mean, for you. I don’t believe in policing other people’s versions of self-care, or of advising what they should or should not do to achieve it. There’s been a weird backlash recently to self-care and I don’t understand that—like, why should we tell anyone that what makes them feel like they are taking good care of themselves is wrong?

That said, because self-care feeds into/arises from industries (health, wellness, fitness, beauty, etc.) that exist to sell us things, I do think it can get exploitative—so whatever you want to do to make yourself feel good, go ahead and do it, but perhaps with a healthy skepticism of the promises of companies that are selling you whatever products you’re using to make yourself feel good.

This is probably why my version of self-care is pretty non-product oriented. I like to look at the ocean, lay in the sun, read a book, take a bath. I’m not really big on trends and specific products that I’d have to buy into at length or at great expense in order to practice the self-care that works best for me.

But again, that’s just my personal opinion. Do what makes you feel good, ladies and gents!